I saw a post about this book on some LinkedIn post and I thought it could help with explaining in interviews why I left my shit, dead end, and toxic jI saw a post about this book on some LinkedIn post and I thought it could help with explaining in interviews why I left my shit, dead end, and toxic job. And to reassure myself during unemployment hopefully. I think it fits in these goals, although I wasn’t sure at times; it's a short one, and it shows in with the rapid pace of subheads: "quitting is okay", next is "you should never quit", then again "but seriously, quitting is not okay", but I guess you can read it again if you are left confused. Never less yeah "cul-de-sac jobs are bad" works for me. I've found the emphasis of being “Number One or else just give up” too grandiose, lmao just let me get by. ...more
I got this as a companion before my trip to South Korea but it's humungous, so I didn't manage to listen to it a lot while I was there. Besides the anI got this as a companion before my trip to South Korea but it's humungous, so I didn't manage to listen to it a lot while I was there. Besides the ancient history, I found interesting the part about the split of the peninsula and how the South took an equally problematic path towards the far right....more
As any self-help book, the duller parts made it hard to progress through.
One of the things I found enlightening was how your work ethic or professionaAs any self-help book, the duller parts made it hard to progress through.
One of the things I found enlightening was how your work ethic or professional persona can be a weakness to be exploited. I also noted how it low-key endourses journaling as an occasion to check unhealthy thought patterns withing a CBT framework. Hope to go back to the scripts in the future, and I'll definitely work on buying time before answering....more
I appreciated the chapter aimed at those who have to endure dysfunction and can only cope, but also the strategies to use during conflict, and in geneI appreciated the chapter aimed at those who have to endure dysfunction and can only cope, but also the strategies to use during conflict, and in general the idea of modeling good behaviors to make a difference. It helped me frame the basis to advocate a "safe to make errors" workplace philosophy in my team....more
Read to deal with toxic coworkers, but I guess the part about having to suck up to go anywhere struxk a chord too. Although, the quip about green hairRead to deal with toxic coworkers, but I guess the part about having to suck up to go anywhere struxk a chord too. Although, the quip about green hair as a career-killing rebellion statement I met halfway through the book made me question how reliable was everything I read of it before....more
I remember listening to a WTF episode with the author, but forgot all about it, to the point that I started confusing her experience with Jeannie Gaff
I remember listening to a WTF episode with the author, but forgot all about it, to the point that I started confusing her experience with Jeannie Gaffigan's, so when it all came back midway it was quite a reveal.
The book itself, it's all over the place. I think I liked the most the story about obsessing over her neighbor, and dealing with (view spoiler)[her sister's death (hide spoiler)].
This book made me want to learn to draw a bit, basic skills to express stuff better.
I've been enticed by this book for maybe 20 years, probably because it has (mentally) jacking off in the title, long before I've heard of rumination aI've been enticed by this book for maybe 20 years, probably because it has (mentally) jacking off in the title, long before I've heard of rumination and reinforcing negative memories/thoughts, but I've found value in how it extends the problem to daydreaming and idealized interactions, in a call to live in the present, and observing it, bridging it into meditation. Going back and forth between the text and the jokey notes was annoying, I guess the whole shtich was....more
I put this in my pile years ago when my partner was experiencing trouble with a nosy coworker (who can still benefit from the burnout chapter), but I'
I put this in my pile years ago when my partner was experiencing trouble with a nosy coworker (who can still benefit from the burnout chapter), but I've dug it up recently when I had my own problems with a co-worker who could go beserk when I told her to cover her own responsibilities. Eventually downsizing fixed the problem for me, but the parts about giving feedback and handle greetings were insightful. I've even recognized some of my traits in the anxious b**h type and go wonder, the suggestion to handle me without problems is 'do your job'.
I prefer the previous title, Working with Mean Girls, because while maybe satisfying, it's frankly uncomfortable to be seen with the book, even if the author tries to give you permission to use the B-word, and I'm not even sure she was speaking to potential male readers. A bunch of the advice is really gender neutral anyway.
A good example of applying creative thinking and moving within a hirarchy. Still, I wonder how it applies outside of a performance based, government f
A good example of applying creative thinking and moving within a hirarchy. Still, I wonder how it applies outside of a performance based, government funded setting.
I was surprised by him dropping the N-word with a hard R.